Friday, March 03, 2006

I Know I Haven't Been Married 30 Years, But...

I talked to my mom last night and she said, "I love your dad. He's a good man, but we've hit a wall." What does that mean? And is it really enough to give up almost 30 years of marriage? I don't think so, but what do I know. I've only been married a month.

This is not the first I've heard of my parents alleged "problems." Two weeks ago she told me that she almost left him. A month before our wedding my dad said that they would stay together for our wedding, but there were no guarantees beyond that point.

Ultimately, I want them to be happy (which I concede may or not be an illusion). They seem to think that they might find happiness apart. I am inclined to think that this would only make them more miserable. However, I'm not quite sure how to go about telling them this. "Wake up! You're both faithful. Kind. And Blind, apparently!"

Is it inappropriate to start sending them marriage skills propaganda such as Fighting For Your Marriage? Heck! It's only $1.99.


Martha said...

I'm sorry you have to go through this, though you seem to be coping well. Anytime you need a distraction, just call or email and we can hang out. Talk wedding or go to the movies. :-)

I've gotten a lot of verbal feedback from my divorce blog from people who think our generation will be less likley to divorce since we've had to endure so much of it from our parents generation. I don't know know if this is true, but it is said that we should study history to learn from the mistakes of the past.

Rod said...

My parents went through the "to divorce or not" thing a few times. They even lived apart for several years. They've been back to living together for about 10 years now. They will be celebrating 42 or 43 years of being married this August.

I wouldn't be too worried about it. Either they'll work it out or they won't. Either way, there's nothing you can do about it.